Cheryl Erwin is a licensed marriage and family therapist and author who has had a private practice working with children, teens, couples, and individuals in the Reno/Sparks area for 20 years. Her parenting commentaries air Tuesdays at 5:35 and 7:35 am, KUNR-FM (88.7), Reno NV. Thank you for listening.
Being present for your kids means more than just showing up.
What works for one of your children may not work for all of them.
Discipline your child by being kind and firm at the same time.
How can you have realistic expectations for your child?
Why it's not a good idea to give wealth to young adults.
Kids used to build things but these days not so much.
What is SEL and why does it matter so much for your child?
A generation of children are growing up in front of the camera.
Should you ever lie to your kids?
Should you intervene when you see an adult hurting a child?
Parents want their children to love and value the same things they do. What if your child does not?
What to do when your kids complain of boredom this summer.
Being a grandparent is a marvelous gift.
A meditation on how important--and fulfilling--it is to just spend time together with your kids.
Anxiety can not only be carried down genetically, but it can also be learned.
Tips on controlling emotions and how that can be a teaching moment for kids.
Turns out both are needed to raise healthy children.
Parent education is a wonderful opportunity to learn new skills and ideas.
Body image problems for kids can start as young as age six.
Children need focused, connected time with parents and caregivers.
What can you do to prepare your children to live in a dangerous world?
Fathers need the freedom to "father."
Pornography is everywhere these days. What impact does this have on young people?
How should you intervene when a child is being hurt?
Is raising a son different than raising a daughter?
Choices are often recommended by parenting books and experts but they can backfire.
Here's some resolutions that won't cost you a dime and may make a big difference in your live and the lives of your children.
Some suggestions for helping children develop empathy and a desire to help others.
Creativity can be messy and parents inadvertently do a number of things that can quench it.
The Holidays can be an opportunity to learn and practice something we should enjoy all year long: gratitude.
Here's the difference between respectful firmness and harshness.
The ability of parents to follow through is critically important and extremely difficult.
Helping children succeed is considered part of effective parenting. But many parents help too much and children suffer as a result.
How parents can recover from their mistakes.
Here's why lying is a bad idea.
By CHERYL ERWIN • NOV 1, 2017
Understanding how your child sees the world can help you learn to set more effective limits and build a stronger connections.
Screening movies and other media for children can be a full-time job but it's never been more important. Here's why.
Bullying does indescribable damage to young men and women. But is every moment of unkindness "bullying"? Here's what you need to know.
No matter how eagerly you anticipate the birth of a second baby, her arrival is bound to cause some upheaval in the family system. Here's how to ease the transition.
Can a reward help to change your child's behavior?
By CHERYL ERWIN • SEP 21, 2017
Child rearing has traditionally been a women's job. That needs to change.
There's a myth that if you pick up a crying baby too often, you will spoil it. Cheryl investigates.
Even after years of research showing that spanking has no positive outcomes for kids, people still argue in favor of using it.
By CHERYL ERWIN • AUG 30, 2017
What should you do if you see someone hurting a child in public?
How to talk to your kids about the race, bigotry and violence they are seeing in the news recently.
Some parental expectations just aren't a good fit for the child they're heaped on.
An alarming number of teenagers and young adults believe lying and cheating are not only okay, they are necessary to achieve success.
There's one thing that parents can give their children that costs nothing and is critically important: your presence.
Kids do better when they are exposed to the outdoors.
Can agreements with your children be successful?
A recent visit to China has Cheryl comparing its parenting style to the U. S.
Here's some thoughts on kids and apologies.
How do you know if teasing is hurtful?
Some ideas to consider about power struggles.
What can parents do to teach kids to entertain themselves?
Should you protect your children from tragic news and violence?
Tired of power struggles? Here's some help.
How and why you should stop yelling at your children.
Follow through is one of the most critical parenting skills.
Giving your kids rewards and incentives can make things worse-here's why.
Where did we get the idea that in order to help children do better, first we have to make them feel worse?
By CHERYL ERWIN • APR 28, 2017
Have you got a child who refuses to sleep in their own bed? Here's how to stop the behavior.
What to do if your child won't sleep in his own bed.
Do you and your spouse agree and the developmental milestones that are appropriate for your child's age?
By CHERYL ERWIN • APR 13, 2017
Texting is a rotten way to communicate.
Coping when the kids go away.
Many parents work so hard at being "good" that they're ineffective at providing the discipline and boundaries that children need.
Every time you think you have solved a problem, it pops up somewhere else. Parents need perseverance and grit to get by.
Sometimes, kids just need permission to have the feelings they have. Here's why.
What happens when children raised with Positive Discipline go out into the world.
Does your child need help to conquer anxiety?
Here are some ideas to consider when supporting your child through a time of loss.
Life with adult kids holds both challenges and opportunities. Here are some things to consider.
By CHERYL ERWIN • FEB 9, 2017
Is praise really an effective incentive for good behavior?
Making agreements can be an effective parenting tool when done in the right spirit.
Are you and your child really listening to each other?
By CHERYL ERWIN • JAN 11, 2017
Can you punish your child too much?
According to Cheryl Erwin, you won't find what your kid needs at the mall.
How to teach your child to calm herself.
Some suggestions on how to use positive time out wisely and effectively.
Research today tells us that shame is harmful to children and teaches nothing positive or helpful.
Helping kids learn the true meaning of Thanksgiving.
Regardless of your vote in the election, it's impossible not to notice the increase in verbal and physical attacks against Muslims, people of color, LGBT people and women. Children are watching and many of them are afraid.
Why do kids behave like that?"
If you frequently find yourself toe to toe with a child whose plan seems to be different than yours, here are some suggestions for creating more cooperation.
Understanding birth order may give you some clues to understanding how your child sees her world.
Parents and teachers love behavior charts. Unfortunately, the research says they don't work. Here's why.
Everywhere you look kids are playing with phones-but is it wise or necessary?
Can you prevent power struggles with your toddler?
Dads should be involved from day one. Here's how to encourage your mate.
Is every moment of unkindness among young people "bullying"? Here's what you need to know.
The best way to inspire honesty in your child is to model it yourself.
Is there a way to engage your kids in conversations that are enjoyable and productive?
Cheryl looks at the homework debate.
A guide to surviving adolescence.
How to make dropping off your child at day care a little more pleasant.
Blame is a natural human reaction but it rarely makes anything better.
Online pornography is everywhere, and by the time they are 16 years old, more than half of all kids have seen it. Here's what parents need to know.
What might happen if we encourage kids to explore and create stuff on their own?
Parents often hesitate to talk with their children about difficult topics like sex or race or disability, but silence isn't helpful.
The news these days is filled with stories of sexual assault on campus. How can parents prepare their sons and daughters to live together with respect and consent?
What is "sibling rivalry" and what can parents do to help their children live peacefully together?
Cheryl has some suggestions on how to talk to your kids about fear and violence.
What sort of world do you want your children to inherit?
How to help your child cope with divorce.
Are parents responsible for entertaining their kids all the time?
Here's how to change the sleeping arrangement.
How to cope with severe anxiety.
How far do you go in allowing your children to follow the fads?
Parents are trying to cram work and parenting together. Here's how to cope with both.
According to Cheryl, it's probably because they don't have to listen.
Are you spending unhurried time with your kids?
Asking a child to make adult decisions, no matter how good your intentions are, is unwise and unfair.
Is fear really an effective parenting tool?
Parents have both hopes and expectations for their child.
Cheryl just returned from her second trip to China.
Most parents understand that listening is important. But did you know that there are actually two kinds of listening? Only one of them is really helpful in building a connection (and solving problems) with those you love.
Strict obedience may not be in the long term interest of your child.
If you have something important to communicate, say it in person.
What are the kids doing now? And why?
Play is easy and important.
What's the difference between praise and encouragement?
Cheryl explains why routines work and how to create them.
Some suggestions for helping your child manage those angry moments.
Focusing on play and social and emotional learning is the best way to teach young kids.
How much time do your kids spend outside?
By CHERYL ERWIN • JAN 25, 2016
Kids don't perceive the world the way adults do.
How can you get your kids to eat?
Parenting is not just a female endeavor.
Are you listening to your child?
Some gift ideas kids will really appreciate.
Are you using appropriate discipline with your kids?
What can parents do to prevent obesity?
Change always begins with parents.
Many of today's young people seem to feel entitled to whatever they want.
Reward and incentives may actually be discouraging.
It's been said that this generation of young people is the "teacup generation" they shatter at the first obstacle they face.
How to survive power struggles with your children.
Early childhood trauma can cause big problems later in life. Here's what to look for, and suggestions about how to help a hurting child.
Nothing causes more friction between children and parents than homework. Here are some tips to help you survive the homework wars.
It's easy to get angry or irritated when a child misbehaves. Understanding why children do what they do is the first step to solving the problems you face.
Yelling is one of the most ineffective things a parent can do. Here's how to stop.
How to help your child deal with anxiety.
Think your kids never listen to you? They hear a lot more than you know.
Cheryl takes a look at appropriate consequences for kids.
Parents often wonder just how firm they should be. It is okay to "make" kids do things? If so, when?
What if your kids don't conform to expectations?
There are many new apps out there that allow parents to track their kids' movements. Should you use them?
When is it okay to let kids explore on their own?
Parents want their children to be good problem solvers but they don't want them to have any problems.
Kids must learn to deal with both positive and negative feelings.
The delegation of chores can cause lots of family conflict.
Value judgments like "good girl" and "bad girl" can teach children unintended lessons about who they are in the world. Cheryl explains why.
What do kids need to know about money?
How to avoid power struggles with your teenager.
When do you do when your child cries at bedtime? Should you pick them up, or let them cry it out?
Do Parents have to fill up every moment with excitement? Boredom may be good for your kids.
By CHERYL ERWIN • MAY 29, 2015
The teen years can be wonderful-if you understand what's happening for your young adult. Cheryl Erwin has a few clues.
There are ways to teach children respect.
Being a grandparent is a marvelous gift, one you don't fully understand until it happens to you.
Anger management tips for the whole family.
Parents around the world are remarkably similar.
There are a lot of messages out there telling kids that crying is bad.
How should you react if your child steals something?
THU APRIL 2, 2015
Courtesy and respect should be part of every home.
WED MARCH 25, 2015
Does the brain run on emotion or logic? What about your child's brain?
FRI MARCH 13, 2015
Is texting an effective way to communicate?
FRI MARCH 6, 2015
Being told to apologize has always been part of a child's upbringing. But does it really accomplish what parents are hoping for?
THU FEBRUARY 19, 2015
Children love to play. But what kind of play is best for their development? What can busy parents do if they just don't have time to let the kids hang out?
THU FEBRUARY 19, 2015
The human brain is not fully mature until around the age of 25. Yet the law of the land tells teens that they are adults at the age of 18.
THU FEBRUARY 12, 2015
You work hard to make wonderful memories with your child. So will your child always remember just what happened?
FRI FEBRUARY 6, 2015
Should you let your child take risks?
FRI JANUARY 30, 2015
Are manners important in today's world?
FRI JANUARY 30, 2015
A recent study shows that children who don't get enough sleep are at risk later in life for obesity and other health issues. How much sleep does your child need? And how can you help your family avoid bedtime battles?
Most parents understand that eating is one of the things you can't "make" a child do. But most parents also find it irritating and annoying when their children refuse to eat anything except hot dogs or cheese pizza. If you have a picky eater in the house, here are some suggestions for keeping peace at the dinner table.
Dads matter; in fact, fathers can do some things for their children that mothers can't. Unfortunately, dads sometime face obstacles when they want to be more engaged in parenting. Here's why fathers matter, and how to create a stronger bond between father and child.
TUE JANUARY 6, 2015
Most parents believe they listen to their children. What does listening to your child really mean?
Many parents' holiday shopping for their children begins and ends at the mall, but there is so much more you can offer. Here are some suggestions for adding fun and connection to your child's holiday.
So many parents feel pressured to create the "perfect" holiday for their children-but is all the effort and expense really worth it?
What kids really need for Christmas this year.
WED DECEMBER 10, 2014
Is your style of discipline productive?
Just how many ads will your kids see this year? Cheryl Erwin investigates.
There are lots of cranky, overwhelmed exhausted parents out there. Is it possible to do less and actually have better-behaved children?
Learning to cope with anxiety is an important skill for adults and children alike.
Defiance is one of the most common complaints parents have about their children. How can you invite cooperation and better behavior?
The Adrian Peterson case has brought corporal punishment back into the national spotlight, but what is the truth about spanking?
Some ideas on what works when trying to motivate your children.
How can parents recover from their mistakes?
Most parents agree that it's impossible to fight about everything. But where do you draw the line?
We know very little about the long-term results of screen use, especially in early childhood.
When should parents step in and save kids from the consequence of their actions?
Studies show that an alarming number of teenagers and young adults believe lying and cheating are not only okay, they're necessary to achieve success.
It is not a good idea to give large amounts of wealth to young adults.
You may not realize how powerful your words really are.
08-05-14 Some thoughts on how to "crash-proof" your child.
How grandparents can help with parenting.
Are your children getting enough sleep?
Is There A Right Way To Discipline A Child?
On September 24, 2014, KNPR in Las Vegas presented a radio show featuring guests Cheryl Erwin, Marriage and Family Therapist, Andrew Freeman, Assistant Professor at UNLV's Department of Psychology, and Bradley Donohue, Director of Family Research and Services and a Professor at UNLV's Department of Psychology.
In this 30 minute broadcast, the panel discusses the questions and issues, the behaviorial theories and the ethical arguments concerning corporal punishment.
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